Having a healthy relationship with someone in mental crisis
My name is Noah, and I want to share some advice about living with someone having a mental crisis. Severe mental crisis in the family can be dangerous for children and adults, but it is like any other disease or situation. Sometimes there can be a quick recovery, and sometimes, it takes a longer time. People who find themselves in such an environment for a long time have a higher risk of developing mental illness in the future.
Four pieces of advice
The good news is that a healthy, loving, and lasting partnership can be maintained with someone living in a severe mental crisis. My advice is to take it seriously right from the beginning. Our role as nearest caregiver make a huge difference, but we have to take care of ourselves. The main thing to remember is:
- Family life can become unstable and unpredictable as the needs of patients become paramount. Research shows that many family members have to quit their jobs once, while others leave their hobbies. I, therefore, think that it is essential to pay attention to this part. As a relative, you need to care for yourself, not burn out.
- For society, parents and other family members often feel guilt. Family members quickly feel guilty or blame themselves. Do not blame yourself!
- Be close. Even if you feel like your support and actions don’t matter, they probably matter to those in mental crisis. Knowing that you are there for them can be essential to their recovery. You can help your loved one and use our application https://www.minplan.org/. Minplan is created to help you recognize warning signs and give you strategies in a crisis.
- Remember it is essential to have realistic expectations. Recovering from a mental illness is usually not an easy process, and there can be improvements or setbacks in the process. With your family member’s permission, you may work with their therapy team to help provide support.
You can also download the Minplan app and get help through the app here.