Personal mental crisis and low motivation
I have learned when your relative is unwell and has low motivation; they might feel as though they have no energy to do what they used to do. This is common in people with depression and schizophrenia. You may feel frustrated that your relative will not do things to improve their situation.
First, you might want to check whether your relative feels tired. This can be a common side effect of medication. A doctor might suggest some options to help with feeling tired.
Sometimes your relative’s low motivation can affect your motivation. Make sure you take time to do activities you enjoy yourself.
Accept that this may be a part of your relative’s illness, at least for now, and try not to put too much pressure on them.
Try to include your relative in daily activities such as shopping or housework. Be careful not to put them under too much pressure to do these things. You might find that it helps to ask them whether they would like to help
If they say no, try:
- not to get upset,
- not to accuse them of being lazy, or
- ask them at different times on the same day.
When you ask them next time, they may say ‘yes.’
Organize regular activities
If your relative gets into a habit of regularly participating in a particular activity, they may start to enjoy it. You could suggest activities your relative used to enjoy. Or you could explore new activities. This could include going for a walk, joining a group or club, or doing hobbies.
Focus on the future and not the past
Your relative may have lost interest in life because they see that things have changed. Reminding your relative of how they used to be may add to this feeling. Instead, talk about things they can do now. Try to move them away from the low motivation by talking about something in the nearest future.
Take small steps and build motivation
Your relative may want life to improve but not feel it is possible. Work with your relative to break down goals into small steps. Progress may be slow, but reassure and encourage them by noting and praising each small success made.