In personal mental crisis and over-dependent
It is essential for you and your relative not to become over-dependent on you. Your relative could lose confidence in doing things for themselves. You may find yourself taking on more than you were expecting to and you may feel stressed and tired.
Work towards independence
Take steps to slowly build your relative’s confidence and independence by agreeing on goals. To start with, your relative’s goals may be to:
- fill in benefits forms,
- get up in the morning,
- pay their bills,
- eat properly,
- go to appointments, and
- take medication.
Get a carer’s assessment
You might have to do more than you want to do because your relative is particularly unwell. Contact your local authority’s social care team to ask for a carer’s assessment if you find it hard to cope. They may be able to arrange additional help or a break for you and your relative.
Get help from professionals
If your relative is under professional help, you could talk to their care coordinator. Their care plan may help them develop independent living skills, for example, by getting help from an occupational therapist or supported housing.
Decide how much you can do for your relative and agree on boundaries. It is better if you can agree on this early on, but you can review the situation at any time. Explain the reasons why you need to set boundaries. Try to do this sensitively.
They don’t feel like fighting it
And that can feel like the absolute worst. Experts recommend encouraging them to go to their appointments or whatever is necessary for their treatment process. Please don’t give up on them on the days they’ve given up on themselves. It is possible to overcome severe personal mental crises.
So if your relative becomes over-dependent? Go and download the Minplan app here for making a safety plan to help you to overcome these situations. Add the warning signs that trigger the problems and use the strategies to prepare you for dealing with these situations in the future.